Empathy is where humankind is lacking. We have such a great emphasis on fitting in and trying to be like everyone else, but not enough on portraying our real selves to each other, or properly understanding everyone around us. Most of our conversations are superficial. I’m using “How are you?” as an example. What percentage of the time when you ask that question, are you really inquiring after someone’s well-being? Really, it’s a conversation filler or starter. Nothing meaningful. You can apply the same idea to much of our other communication. Most of the time, we’re not really saying what we’re thinking or feeling in that moment. We tiptoe around those areas as if they’re quicksand. Most of the time, our feelings have this invisible picket fence around them. Ain’t socially acceptable to go there, love. We are selective about the few feelings we do share. That’s why you seldom get people telling you they feel depressed in the moment. No-one tells you when they’re properly jealous of you. They don’t tell you what they’re unhappy about in their lives, or what they’re insecure about. It’s likely you don’t bring those things up either. At least, not with most people. This is because you don’t think they’ll understand, and they don’t think you’ll understand either. The remnants of caring become superficial remarks. To fit in, we try to acquire the same material objects as everyone else. The same clothes. The same style of living. We become detached and self-absorbed and endeavour to be like everyone else to make up for the fact that we don’t have much real closeness. I think all the effort for this “being like everyone else” makes you unhappy when it isn’t what you genuinely want. And most of the time you don’t realise what you’re doing.
If we had more empathy, and in general, talked to each other from the heart, we’d be more content with being ourselves. This is partly because when you tell someone how you feel and they understand, it validates that feeling. It’s also because we’d understand why other people want what they want. We’d be closer to each other.
I wish we could just talk to each other from the heart, say what we want to say and express our feelings without unnecessary propriety. I don’t mean be rude to each other. I mean remove that nasty little unnecessary picket fence. I really very strongly feel this way. I constantly feel like people are being fake. It’s terrible. On both a personal and a world scale. If people all over the planet, powerful people especially, made the effort to understand each other, so many of the world’s problems would be nonexistent.
Tell me whether you agree or disagree with me. And tell me how you think humanity can improve. Remember to speak from the heart 🙂
Let me quickly thank everyone who follows this blog – you are awesome and I send great gratitude to you 🙂 I fairly recently reached 200; https://tremendouskyle.wordpress.com/ was my 200th follower, so thank you!
Yay, no more Liebster awards.